Fake it till you BELIEVE it

?????????????????One of the most simple but effective things that I’ve ever done to empower myself was to live by the idea of “faking it till you BELIEVE it”. Just as how cats purr to improve healing rates, how do we as people do to give ourselves the much needed boost of endorphins? Exercise or perhaps that age old chocolate remedy?

With the spotlight firmly on you as a leader, and with decisions resting on your shoulders, it’s often easy to feel like a balloon with the air let out. That leaves hardly anything for the “nice to haves”, and unfortunately, more often than not, setting yourself up for success falls under that neglected category.

That’s where Amy Cuddy’s much discussed TED talk comes in.

In her talk, social psychologist Amy Cuddy eloquently and very simply talks about how body language affects how others see us, but more importantly,  it also changes how we see ourselves.

Specifically, the concept of “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.

The power of body language is not a new concept and certainly universally translates between individuals and groups and affects how we see others and them us.

Open up any presentation or communication skills handbook from the past few decades and body language always features predominantly. What the research doesn’t always allude to though is how our non-verbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves.

So then using the same concept, how powerful do we feel as leaders? Indeed, how powerful do we feel as women even perhaps? And how can we keep it up?

In those moments where one feels like they don’t have anymore to give, or perhaps the little voice of doubt enters the internal conversation, it can make one feel like they don’t deserve to be there.

In those instances, don’t fake it till you make it, fake it till you BECOME it. Remembering that the tiniest  things lead to the biggest change.

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